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Parent Tip of the Week: Encourage Positive Behavior

Parents can prevent their child’s unwanted behaviors by encouraging positive ones. We share suggestions of the many ways parents can reward their children for good behavior.

Things You Can Do

In addition to things we say, we show approval by things we do.

  • Smile
  • Hug
  • Maintain eye contact
  • Pats
  • Nods
  • Winks
  • Shake hands
  • Stand beside your child

Things You Can Say

Praise a child when you like something they have done. Here are some ways to say, “I like what you did.”

  • Nice job!
  • Very good!
  • I am proud of you.
  • Nice going!
  • Nice work.
  • Thank you.
  • I like the way that you…
  • Excellent!

Spend Time with Your Child to Reinforce Good Behavior

Most children want to spend time with their parents. Here are some ways to spend time with your child:

  • Invite your child to sit next to you.
  • Play a game with him or her.
  • Read a story together.
  • Invite your child to help you cook dinner.
  • Watch a movie together.
  • Tell your child that he or she can stay up an extra hour to spend time with you.
  • Go to the park with your child.

Tangible Rewards

Children also enjoy rewards they can look at and hold. Here are some ideas:

  • Stickers
  • Stars
  • Happy faces
  • Crayons/Markers
  • Books
  • Coloring Books
  • Stuffed animals
  • Plastic tokens (used for a special treat)
  • Candy (occasionally!)

Remember, not every child responds positively to every kind of reward, so find the ones that seem to work best. Also, not every idea works well the first time. Be patient and keep looking for ways to reward the behaviors you like.


Have a tip you want to share? E-mail Jackie Hirschorn at hirschoj@mhawestchester.org with your Parent Tip of the Week!


This material has been adapted by MHA from materials of the ACT (Adults and Children Together Against Violence) program developed by the American Psychological Association (APA), a scientific and professional organization that represents psychology in the United States.

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